Would you rather someone be a lapsed Christian (meaning that they once were hardcore but are now i don't even know what?) or someone be a total non-Christian (meaning they believe in God but that's about as far as they go when it comes to spiritual contemplation)?

I'd say the latter. I've been in utter turmoil for the last 2 hours because the frontman and drummer of my potentially-favourite-band-of-all-time-whose-cd-i-just-bought-and-listened-to-in-confusion-because-of-the-cryptic-lyrics are apparently no longer christian but self-proclaimed universalists. They were never a "christian" band, but there was obvious spirituality in their lyrics. This new album is full of cynicism and "i just don't know anymores" which breaks my heart. Is it BETTER to be a lapsed Christian or a non-and-never-was-Christian?

What happens when the Shepherd leaves his flock to go look for the lost sheep and comes back and the sheep we thought were safe have disappeared?